Alex: In your post, you make a few claims, but I find two to be particularly problematic:
1. It is not possible to love someone in a meaningful way who does not love you back.
2. Unconditional love has conditions.
JC: To explain 1 again, if there is no bidirectional love there is no relationship, and if there is no relationship there is no meaning. If I tried to love a stone that would be meaningless, or if I tried to love someone who hated me and everything that I stood for.
To explain 2 again, the closest example we have to unconditional love is parents, but this love does have a condition the child is good sometimes, and not totally evil like Damien.
Alex: First, we know that unconditional love exists because God the father loves us unconditionally.
JC: The argument is circular. You need additional information, you need a basis for the assertion that is not simply reasserting the premise. Where in scripture does it say God loves humans unconditionally? God is perfectly loving, but humans don’t love Him back.
Alex: This unconditional love does not require one to reciprocate it back, as is the case with God and his children.
JC: God should be seen as the Creator. Seeing Him as Father was always a dodge. A human father is not a creator. He has merely activated a mechanism for procreation which God designed. A father seeks to provide for His children, and God has provided for all the creatures on the planet, only the human creatures are presently threatening the rest of the creatures as well as their own future civilization. What would a human father do, seeing his children squandering what he has given them, and attacking one another brutally like is happening in Ukraine? He’d have to disown them. They don’t love him and won’t listen to his counsel regarding peace and harmony. There’s no real relationship with them.
Alex: God still loves his children, even the ones who do not love him back.
JC: You think God is tied to the humans because He made them, but He is not tied to them any more than He is tied to the animal plane. The animals do not enter an authentic relationship with God, and humans could not be guided safely through the industrial era.
Alex: Here is why:
1. God is all-loving and all-powerful.
JC: You paint a picture of an inanimate object, not a Living God. You’re trying to force God to be all-loving, while flattering Him that He is all-powerful. God is perfectly loving but not all-loving. For one thing, were God to stop loving the greatest best, all progress would cease. Angels excel in goodness and earn God’s favor that way. If He loved all the same then no favor could be earned. He’d be inanimate, like a charging station for Teslas.
Alex:2. Unconditional love is the highest form of love.
JC: You haven’t pointed to any better examples of unconditional love except in a circular way insisting God has this love. If unconditional love does not exist, it is not a real love.
Alex: 3. If God’s love for us is conditional, then it is not the highest form of love.
JC: Love must be conditional by its very nature. Love is a response to the attributes, to what is lovable about an individual. If they lose these attributes there is no basis for love. On the other hand if their attributes increase in glory and nobility they deserve more love.
Alex: 4. Therefore, God’s love for us is unconditional.
JC: Your argument remains essentially circular, for you haven’t given any external justification for these claims, instead just repeating them. Scripture doesn’t say God’s love is unconditional. This appears to be an invention of the modern liberal churches.
Alex: Now that it is established that God posits unconditional love, I deem it important to demonstrate why humans on earth are capable of positing unconditional love as well. I will go along with the example you present about the love that is present within parent-child relationships. You say that a child like Damien from “The Omen” is unlovable by a parent because of the evil he procures.
JC: I watched “The Omen II” yesterday, and Damien kills his second set of parents too. He’s a strong example of why unconditional love is an impossibility, for where there is rebellion and hatred love becomes meaningless. We cannot love that which destroys us.
Alex: This reminds me of an article by Jane English called “What Do Grown Children Owe Their Parents?.” In this article, English agrees that the parent-child love has a condition, but she would not agree that the condition is what you cite in terms of Damien. Rather, she says that the love a parent has for a child is conditional on them being their child. That’s it. It is true that there are cases where parents disown their children and as a result stop loving them. In these cases though, the one condition for a parent’s unconditional love is removed: that parent is no longer considering that child their child. After all, that is what it means to disown.
JC: You appear to be arguing that unconditional love arises from feelings of ownership of the child, rather than as any response to the attributes of the child! But God has no feeling of ownership regarding creation. Ownership amounts to a claim of relationship with material objects that are presumed to have intrinsic value. They stick to the fingers as if glued there. God is detached from the material creation, aware the real value is in spirit.
Alex: This fact, however, by no means supports your claim that unconditional love has conditions because God’s love works in the same way. He loves us because we are his children. The only difference is that he could never disown us. There is no way for humans on earth to break from this condition because they will always be God’s children so long as they are on earth.
JC: You appear to be stuck claiming that parents love their children out of feelings of ownership, because it is their child and not the child of another, and that God’s love is the same way. But anything you claim must apply equally to the animals, which are part of God’s creation too. Therefore He owes nothing more to humans, than He does to animals.
Alex: It is possible for both humans and God to love others without condition and without reciprocation.
JC: I never said reciprocation. Selfless love does not demand reciprocation. But if the love is discovered to be unidirectional, it loses meaning. One loves to the extent of one’s power, for this is under one’s control. But any love becomes meaningless in a vacuum.
Alex: While semantically there seems like there is a condition (parent-child love is conditional on the child being the parent’s and God-child love is conditional on the child being God’s), this is basically a tautology.
JC: It isn’t a semantic or tautological issue, for you have said parents love their children because they are their children and not those of another, in other words from ownership. This is why love in the family does not spread to the community to make a loving world. To say, “Mine,” is not genuine love. Love requires a vision and response to the attributes.